Say the thing you've never been able to say.
Write it badly. We'll help you write it well and deliver it privately to the one person who should hear it — with your name nowhere on it.
Someone who knows you has something to tell you.
I've been worried about you these past few months. I've watched you pass out on a couch at a party, and there have been other stretches where you disappeared for weeks without answering anyone.
I'm not judging you, and I'm not asking for anything. I just couldn't keep pretending I hadn't noticed.
Three things people can't say out loud.
These are the messages this was built for.
You changed my life and you never knew it.
I've had feelings for you for a year and never said so.
I'm worried about how much you've been drinking.
How it works
Say what you want to tell them
A few questions about the person and about the moment you can't stop thinking about. The specific thing is what makes it land.
We write it with you
Two versions come back, one short and one longer, in the tone you picked. Change every word if you want to.
It arrives without your name
A neutral subject line, no preview of what's inside. They get the message, they don't get you along with it.
It arrives without the weight of who sent it.
They'll know it came from someone real in their life, because the email says so plainly. What they won't know is who — and that's what lets the message be read for what it is, instead of turning into a conversation about you.
Every message is read by a moderator before it goes out. Threats, harassment and anything sexual about a person are blocked.
Whoever wrote this really does know you. They chose not to sign it so the message could arrive without the weight of who sent it.
There's someone you should tell something.
It takes about four minutes, and your name goes into none of them.
Write your message